About Unwritten

I used to be a social butterfly — the kind who never met a coffee date she could turn down. If you wanted my time, I’d make it happen. No hesitation.

My calendar was always full, and I wore it like a badge of honour. It made me feel important, needed, plugged in. I told myself I was building connections, but really, I was handing out pieces of myself without ever checking who I was giving them to. Some interactions left me lighter, some left me drained, and too many left me wondering why I’d bothered at all.

It’s not a revelation you want to have, but here it is: not everyone deserves a seat at your table. The people you spend your time with will shape you, for better or worse. Some will sharpen you, expand you, challenge you to step up. Others will keep you small, drag you into cycles of noise, or erode your edges until you can’t see yourself clearly anymore.

The hardest part? Knowing when it’s time to step back. And doing it. Not with drama. Not with fireworks. Just a quiet retreat. You tell yourself it’s not personal — and it’s not. It’s about protecting the person you’re becoming. Yes, there are moments of loneliness. But it’s the kind that comes with space, and space is where the right people can walk in.

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