About Unwritten

Unwritten by Jade

People often tell me, “You’ve got your life together.”

It’s meant as a compliment, the kind that lands between admiration and assumption. They see the calm, the achievements, the decisions that look intentional. They see the girl who plans ahead, who seems to always know what she’s doing.

But the truth? I’m still figuring things out, like everyone else.

I have a running to-do list that lives on my desk, most of it underlined in red marker, half-finished tasks staring back at me like quiet reminders that control is often just an illusion. Some days, crossing an item off feels like victory. Other days, the list itself feels heavier than it should.

And if I’m honest, I know I’m doing better than most of my close circle. I have a job that both men and women often tell me they envy. I have the time and freedom to do the things I love, to travel, to write, to pour myself into work that feels meaningful. From the outside, it looks like I’ve won some kind of balance. But even within that, there are nights when the quiet gets too loud, when the weight of keeping it all together feels heavier than it looks.

I overthink. I second-guess. I make plans and then question them five minutes later. Some days I wake up ready to take on the world; other days I’m just trying to get through the noise inside my head. There are mornings when I move through life with confidence, and nights when I quietly unravel behind closed doors.

People see the version of me that’s composed but not the one that still battles self-doubt, or the fear of not being enough. They don’t see the late-night moments where I replay conversations, or the quiet anxiety of wanting to be strong for everyone and yet secretly needing a break.

Having it “together” isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence. About showing up even when your voice shakes, or when the red lines on your to-do list remind you how unfinished everything still feels. It’s about being both proud of the progress and patient with the process.

So no, I don’t have it all together.

But I have awareness. I have effort. I have heart.

And maybe, for now, that’s enough.